Planning Your Funeral Before Time

funeral homeThink about it – it’s the duty of funeral homes to put together one of the most important days in a person’s life. It’s often taken for granted, but the funeral directors in any given community are often one of the most important figures. No one likes to think about death, but when death effects you or your loved ones, the responsibility of counseling and guiding you through all of the various arrangements falls directly on the shoulders of the funeral director.

If you are facing a difficult time, don’t hesitate to let the funeral director help guide you through it. There are many considerations that must be made, and their expertise in fields such as flower arrangements, catering, eulogy writing is invaluable. After all, you can’t arrange a proper memorial without knowing how.

It’s difficult to think of your own unfortunate passing, but it’s a reality we must all face. The sooner you start thinking about how you’d like your funeral to be, the easier it will be for your loved ones to handle the memorial. The stress of not knowing how to proceed if no wishes were set in stone only makes the grieving process more complicated. If you don’t have a will, you should consider getting one immediately.

Of course, there’s a bit more to having a will than merely writing some wishes down and storing them in a cabinet for later reference. You would be best served by finding a lawyer that specialises writing wills. By doing so, you can legally secure everything you want done after your passing, such as whether you prefer to be cremated or buried, and what you might want done with your possessions. You can also choose an executor who will take care of all of the planning so other family members don’t get involved in silly quarrels.

grief counsellingYou can then choose a funeral home to handle your planned final farewell, and this is where talking to a funeral director in Melbourne such as can come in really handy. Any reputable funeral home will be glad to consult with you even if you’re merely there to plan for the future. It’s best to speak with them and get a feel for how they handle their memorial services to help you make the right choice. It’s important to do this even if you’re in the process of helping plan the funeral for someone else. Issues like these are far too important to leave up to random chance.

When it comes to your own arrangements, you can plan and save for the required funds in order to ease the burden on those you’ll leave behind. You can work out a detailed outline with the director and have every part of the proceedings planned out before time. Every aspect of your funeral arrangements can be taken care ahead of time, even down to the type of urn or coffin you wish to have.

Of course, having all of these plans already in place will help your memorial flow more smoothly for your family. It is one of the kindest gestures to have everything in place so your loved ones can have the time to grieve in peace. A lot of families have been left not knowing what the last wishes of the deceased were and as such tend to go with a generalised memorial service that often leaves them feeling regret. If you already know the type of eulogy you’d like, or who you’d like to deliver it then you can have this all planned out ahead of time. Your family will feel so much lighter with your memorial arrangements in place.

memorial serviceYou will find it invaluable to speak to a local funeral director. As the saying goes, there are no dumb questions. If you have an idea of what you would like for a memorial service, feel free to ask the funeral director if it’s possible. You can then understand what might go into planning what you have in mind, or whatever may similar if the exact wishes aren’t actually practical. Of course, interviewing different funeral homes will also help you find the one that’s most capable of capturing you desired wishes.

There are many considerations that come up when arranging a memorial service. For instance, many people send flowers to the family as a kind gesture but maybe you and your family would much rather they donate to your favourite charity or your local church. You can even discuss the clothing that you’d prefer to be worn for your burial, whether you want there to be a chapel of rest viewing and if you will allow photographs to be taken. There are many decisions that must be made, and figuring it out all out ahead of time by talking to a funeral director (and lawyer specialising in these matters) is for the best for yours and your family’s peace of mind.

Why Its Important to Grieve

Losing someone close to you can have a devastating impact on our emotions. Emotion although never seen, are a powerful force. When we don’t express our emotions they stay un-resolved inside and can have a negative effect on our internal organs and our general well being.

This 10 minute video explains the importance of grieving and why it is something you must do.